Something that I think the pandemic has taught us all is how fast things can change. Within a government press conference, the state of the nation can change; shops, cafes, and restaurants close, faces are covered by masks, travel and social interaction is restricted, what we saw as every day life becomes restricted. What 'normal' means changes so fast. Many of us have had experience of how fast our jobs, relationships, mental and physical health can change as a result of the pandemic.
Outside of the pandemic, life can change so fast too. At high school, I spent five years with the same eighteen people in my year group. But as soon as I left after completing my GCEs, that changed. Not only did my social circles change, but my whole routine changed. I studied A-Levels from home, and I did an internship at a church. Then at age eighteen, things changed again as I moved out of the family home. I’m sure that you have similar experiences; when you changed jobs, when you moved house, when you had a child, when your physical or mental health changes - everything changes so fast.
This time of year makes me feel particularly reflective. Rather than doing New Years Resolutions, I prefer to explore these questions. I’ve created them as an Instagram template, and attached them below. I encourage you to work through it too at some point over the new year.
As I look back to January 2021, I can see how much things have changed. I finished uni, which means I’m not travelling up and down to Nottingham every other week, I don’t have assignments to do, and my relationship with my classmates have changed.
I was a part time youth worker in a church, but I am now a full time digital communications coordinator in an office, which has completely changed my weekdays, headspace, and social circles. I'm working with and becoming friends with a completely new bunch of people.
Last year I attend a different church, which again changes my relationships with people in the old and new church, and it changes my Sunday routine.
Looking back to this time last year, my relationships with my family, and with my now fiance, and my friends, have both changed noticeably within just 12 months.
Encompassed in all of these visible, noticeable changes, there are also certainly changes within my goals, passions, priorities, interests, skills, as well as struggles, limits, and difficulties too.
That is all within one year. Granted, perhaps people in my age group are more likely to experience many vast changes within short periods of time, but I don't think this is an experience limited to one generation or season.
When storms rage and everything surrounding us is dark and heavy, it can feel too difficult to say “it is well”. Whilst I understand the story and meaning of this phrase (see here), instead, I am learning to say “it isn’t well, but it will be”. I acknowledge that in the current circumstances, for whatever reason, things are not going well. But I also recognise that things change so fast, so it will one day be well again.